Having bold & compassionate conversations about intimacy in long-term relationships,

because telling the truth leads to better sex.

Hey, we’re
Rachel & Caitlin!

And we never, ever thought we’d talk publicly about sex. We’re guessing you also feel the same way!

After radically transforming our own marriages, we set out on a mission together to elevate real women’s stories and bring a much-needed voice to the complexities of sex in marriage and long-term relationships.

We’ve spent the last several years researching, interviewing, and gathering wisdom to make this project a reality. Click below to find out more about us!

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The path to healing begins in the bedroom.

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Here’s the deal… most sex books look down upon long-term relationships with judgmental pity. They push the narrative that having sex with the same person over a long period of time is bound to be boring, and therefore needs to feel youn
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